Category: Relationships
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Have you tortured someone today?
One in four of us don’t ‘fit in’. This leads to tremendous psychological pain as we deal with the pain of rejection and the fear of being ostracised. Have you unwittingly tortured your friend today?
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Rebuilding identity without consensus
When shared reality fractures, identity can feel unmoored. This piece explores how to rebuild psychological coherence without agreement, protect curiosity without overexposure, and remain grounded in how you think rather than who agrees with you
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When conversation disappears, grief follows
This piece explores the quiet grief that follows the loss of meaningful conversation, how identity is affected when reflection disappears, and why exhaustion, withdrawal, and sadness are often signs of unrecognised relational loss rather than cynicism or burnout
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Why some conversations now feel impossible
If conversations leave you exhausted rather than understood, this piece explores the psychology behind why dialogue collapses when belief fuses with identity, and how to recognise when shared understanding is no longer available without blaming yourself or others
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Get over yourself
A reflective essay on sensitivity, overthinking, and learning that not everything is about us. Includes a neurodiversity lens on rejection sensitivity and the contrarian ‘Gaye factor’
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When love arrives late: what no one tells you about cross-cultural romance after sixty
Finding yourself in an unexpected cross-cultural relationship after sixty whilst neurodivergent? Struggling with family expectations, communication across difference, or wondering if your brain’s wired for this? Let’s explore what you’re actually building—and whether it’s working for both of you
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When desire dies and you’re both still breathing
Struggling with mismatched desire in your relationship? Book a consultation to explore what’s really happening beneath the surface—and discover what connection might look like when you stop performing and start being honest about what you actually need
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When obsession isn’t love: limerence and the neurodivergent brain
Ever wondered why your crush feels like a full-time job? This piece unpacks the neurodivergent chemistry behind limerence, why it hijacks your brain, and how to turn obsession into insight. Read the full piece on Mindblown Psychology — where intensity meets understanding
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When your hand won’t listen
Your hand shapes your world—writing, creating, connecting. When Dupuytren’s contracture takes that away, the psychological toll is profound. Read how this hidden disability changes more than movement, and why acknowledging its impact can restore dignity, meaning, and connection in the face of limitation
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You’re Not Imagining It, It IS This Weird
A witty, satirical survival guide for the optimisation age, ‘You’re Not Imagining It, It IS This Weird’ exposes the absurdities of wellness, productivity, and authenticity culture while inviting readers to laugh, question, and reclaim their sanity in a world gone strangely sideways
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Adults on medication—and why you shouldn’t feel guilty about it
Medication doesn’t make you weak—it makes you stable enough to live fully. Whether Western or traditional, tools that work give complex minds freedom to thrive. Learn why guilt has no place here and how medication can support creativity, stability, and love
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Why women say ‘yes’ to intimacy
Women’s intimacy is shaped by biology, emotion, and neurodiversity. Learn the real motivators, avoid misinterpretation, and adapt your relationship to grow deeper over time. Stop guessing about desire — start understanding what intimacy really means for her, right now
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Attraction when you’re neurocomplex
Tired of chasing sparks that burn out? For neurocomplex adults, attraction isn’t about chemistry—it’s about resonance, safety, and relief. Learn how to filter connections, protect your energy, and spot the rare minds that truly meet you
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The psychology of falling in love fast
Falling in love can feel instant, almost fated—but is it science, destiny, or both? Explore the psychology of falling in love in just ten minutes, from limbic resonance to dopamine surges, and learn what expats need to know about cross-cultural relationships
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Understanding AuDHD
Discover the essential guide to autism and ADHD—together. Understanding AuDHD – Third Edition blends lived experience and professional insight to explain the science, strengths, and strategies that make AuDHD unique. Clear, practical, and compassionate—this book helps you turn understanding into meaningful action for real-life impact
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Term of the Day: Emotional granularity
Discover how emotional granularity—the skill of naming feelings precisely—can deepen romantic connection, reduce conflict, and bridge cultural differences. Essential for neurodiverse couples navigating Australian directness and Vietnamese subtlety, it transforms misunderstanding into understanding
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Academia.edu charged me $371.80 AUD without warning—and refused to refund it
After Academia.edu auto-renewed a $371.80 AUD subscription without notice, I requested a refund. They refused. I’m sharing my full complaint letter publicly to warn others about their deceptive billing practices and refusal to offer support or flexibility. This is a cautionary tale worth reading.
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When to leave
Knowing when to leave a relationship can be one of the hardest emotional decisions. This post offers clarity, compassion, and psychological insight for those sitting in uncertainty. If you’ve been questioning, doubting, or aching for peace—this might help you find your answer
